156. Neal Allen – Shapes of Truth: Discover God Inside You

Neal Allen describes himself as pink, fluffy, love. He’s written a book called Shapes of Truth: Discover God Inside You, which is an interesting book to write for someone who declared himself an atheist at the age of 14. In this conversation and in the book, he lays out some interesting ideas about how we can really get in touch with what’s truly inside us and what’s not. Neal worked for many years as a journalist, and he entered the corporate world where he worked as an executive. Ultimately, he left that to explore a life of coaching and service. A lot of his work has involved looking at the identities we live, how we can dissolve those, and how we can create new and more empowering ones.

In this interview, Neal describes two of the most shaping periods in his life – the “stop believing my story” period and the “burning down the house” period. We get a taste of his transformation process as he takes Brilliant through one that he describes in his book, where we can go deep into an aspect inside ourselves. Neal also takes Brilliant through the enlightening lightning round with him. So not only will you hear his answers in this interview, but Brilliant’s as well. This captivating interview provides techniques to discover ourselves and make the best of who we are.

“When you give yourself the right to look at something like deficient emptiness… it feels like it has actually been seen through… it waves goodbye and disappears.”

This week on the School for Good Living Podcast:

  • Bridging the gap from atheism
  • Bob and the work he did with Neal – The “Stop believing my story” period of life
  • Dissolving self identities – The “Burning down the house” period of life
  • Brilliant “discovering God” inside himself
  • The “I don’t know” approach
  • Brilliant joins Neal for the enlightening lightning round

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155. Steven C. Hayes – A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters

Steven C. Hayes is an amazing thinker. He has written nearly 50 books, and hundreds of articles. He is an originator of ACT therapy and RFT (Relational Frame Therapy). Google scholar data ranks him among the top fifteen hundred most cited scholars in all areas of study, living and dead. His career has focused on human nature, language, cognition, and the application of this to an understanding and alleviation of human suffering. His latest book, and topic of our interview, is called “A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters”.

In this episode, Steven C. Hayes talks about psychological flexibility, what it is, how we can cultivate it, why it matters, and how it can change our lives. We talk about something in this interview called “The Dictator within”; how to give distance to and how to get distance from it, to not let it run our lives or ruin our lives. We talk about awareness and attention. We talk about the idea of evolving on purpose, and so much more. Finally, we get into a little bit about writing and how Steven has written over a million words. We also talk about how Steven’s large volume of content has quite literally changed our world.

“Love isn’t everything. It’s the only thing.”

This week on the School for Good Living Podcast:

  • The dictator within
  • Evolution and being ‘average’
  • Diffusion from our own mind
  • Psychological flexibility, emotional openness, and mindfulness
  • Authoritarian Distancing

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154. Todd Rose – Dark Horse: Achieving Success Through The Pursuit of Fulfillment

Todd Rose is an extraordinary man. Convinced we has a bad student, he performed poorly in school and even dropped out of college. Little did he know he would later gain a PHD and become a professor at Harvard University. Todd has since been fascinated with the idea of motivation, and has founded the nonprofit Populace to help transform how we learn, work, and live to help us live more fulfilling lives.

Todd joins us today to discuss the relationship between motivation, and the pursuit of happiness. We talk about the phenomenon of the Dark Horse, a person who finds fulfillment in going against the system. We also discuss the definition of fulfillment, as well as the power and productivity that comes when we prioritize fulfillment over other daily motivations. Lastly, we talk about the writing process and how Todd has written his books.

“There is nothing to be had for you achieving on someone else’s view of a good life.”

This week on the School For Good Living Podcast:

  • Motivations, what are they?
  • Dark Horses and what drives them
  • How to understand your micro motivations
  • The key to finding fulfillment
  • Society is positive-sum
  • Ignoring society’s definition of a good life

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153. David McRaney – You Are Not So Smart

David McRaney has worked as an editor, a photographer, a voiceover artist, a television host, a public speaker, a TV producer, and a journalist. David, being a deeply intelligent and thoughtful man, has focused his work on revealing the self-delusions and cognitive biases by which we live our lives. He has written a book called You Are Not So Smart and also runs a blog and podcast by the same name to help provide the world with his findings.

David joins me today to discuss this phenomenon of self-delusion, and how each of us sees the world differently. We talk about how our experiences can change the way we view the world, and his deep desire to better understand and know himself. We also touch on how we managed to write his last book while his house was hit by a tornado, and other challenges he faced while writing his books.

“You will find a place in your life where you can extract value from the chaos.”

This week on the School For Good Living Podcast:

  • Our understanding of the world is always changing
  • Writing through a tornado
  • The powerful influence of PTSD
  • How a mindset can help you lose weight
  • The wrong way to influence people
  • Always challenge your assumptions

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152. Aaron Berkowitz – One by One by One: Making A Small Difference Amid a Billion Problems

Dr. Aaron Berkowitz is a leading voice in neurology, global health and medical education. He’s also concerned and involved with issues of social justice. Aaron has written a book called One by One by One: Making a Small Difference Amid a Billion Problems, to inspire others to see the world differently and get involved in making a positive change.

Aaron joins me today to discuss the immense comforts we take for granted in this country, and in particular, modern medicine. We discuss his trips to Haiti and the immense poverty he witnessed in a place that was only a four-hour flight from his home in Boston. Lastly, we touch on his writing process and his message to us all about how we can help change the world.

“There are no failures, only failures of imagination.”

This week on the School For Good Living Podcast:

  • The value of not knowing
  • An unstructured path into a very structured career
  • Haiti and its rich history
  • Voluntourism: does it actually help?
  • How to become a powerful storyteller

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151. Shirley Hager – The Gatherings: Reimagining Indigenous-Settler Relations

Shirley Hager is an advocate and activist for social and racial equality. From a young age she has had an eye for spotting discrepancies in the way we treat each other. Recently, she joined a group of thirteen indigenous and non-indigenous people who banded together to gain a deeper understanding of each other’s lives and culture. This group recently co-authored a book, The Gatherings: Reimagining Indigenous-Settler Relations.

Shirley joins me today to discuss her first encounter with racial inequality as an elementary school student, her lifelong pursuit of equality, and how she gained a particular interest in Native American culture. We talk about the early years of this great nation and settle some little-understood facts about how it got it’s start. Finally, we discuss what it was like writing a book as a group and the unique creative process that they used.

“We all have the truth, we are just looking for someone to confirm it.”

This week on the School For Good Living Podcast:

  • Shirley’s first encounter with racism
  • The real first acts of racism in America
  • Why Indian children were being removed from their homes
  • The only solution to racial inequality
  • Writing a book as a group

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150: Mike Finkel – Lessons from 27 years Alone in the Woods and other Incredible True Tales

Mike Finkel’s bio reads more like Indiana Jones than a Journalist. He has traveled the world in his work for various magazines including climbing volcanos, delving into caves, meeting with native tribes in Tanzania, ascending the mountains of Afghanistan, hunting for extremely rare mushrooms in Tibet, and even investigating the black market human organ trade. He has written various, nonfiction books across a wide range of topics and has another on the way.

Mike joins me this week to discuss his latest book, A Stranger In the Woods, which revolves around a man who spent 27 years in the woods of Maine without ever coming in contact with a single person or even lighting a fire. We talk about Mike’s unique creative process and how he chooses the topics for his books. We also talk about how unique and valuable ever person’s story is.

“I believe that everybody has a fascinating story to tell, and nobody, if you ask the right questions, is really boring”

This week on the School For Good Living Podcast:

  • The life of a writer
  • Studying the world’s last hermit
  • How to develop crucial interviewing skills
  • No story is boring
  • Pursuing what interests you

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149. Tony Bartelme – A Surgeon in the Village: The Impact One Person Can Have

Tony Bartelme is a Three-Time Pulitzer Prize nominee, narrative storyteller, and investigative journalist. He has recently spent five months in Tanzania in order to capture and tell the story of brilliant brain surgeon Dilan Ellegala, which began with a post-residency vacation and ended with a revolution of Tanzania’s medical training programs. Tony documented Dilan’s story in a book which he titled A Surgeon in the Village: An American Doctor Teaches Brain Surgery in Africa.

Tony joins me today to discuss the impact that a single individual can have, especially the amazing change wrought out by surgeon Dilan Ellagala in Tanzania. We talk about the global shortage of doctors and the immense number of lives that could be saved each year if they only had access to proper surgical care. We also touch on the importance of teaching, and the passing on of our knowledge for the betterment of others. Lastly, we discuss Tony’s unique writing and reporting process.

“Failure is a gift, as long as you learn from it”

This week on the School For Good Living Podcast:

  • The story of a Surgeon in the Village
  • The power of teaching
  • The gift of failure
  • Standstill – the craziest surgery imaginable
  • Clear intentions and their value
  • The writing process

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148. Oren Jay Sofer – Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach To Nonviolent Communication

Oren Jay Sofer is a long-time mindfulness teacher, coach, and author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach To Nonviolent Communication. Oren has spent many years studying and practicing Buddhism, Yoga, and Mindfulness. He has since used those skills to lead trainings in various companies on a wide range of mindfulness topics.

Oren joins me today to discuss communication and the significant power that our words can have. We talk about the techniques we can use to keep our communication nonviolent and effective. We also touch on the obstacles and challenges that can make communication more difficult, and how to overcome them.

“Presence is our natural state.”

This week on the School For Good Living Podcast:

  • Presence
  • The power of breath
  • Buddhist tradition
  • The impact of proper communication
  • Writing skills
  • The power of habit

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147. Don Miguel Ruiz Jr – The Seven Secrets To Healthy Happy Relationships

Don Miguel Ruiz Jr is the author of five books, including his latest publication The Seven Secrets To Healthy Happy Relationships. Don belongs to a family with a rich heritage in the Mexican Toltec tradition. Having learned the tradition from the teachings and preachings of his grandmother, Don now dedicates his life to helping others heal from the wounds that conditional love inflicted upon them.

Don joins me today to discuss the importance and power of unconditional love, a mission that he and his family have been dedicated to for generations. We talk about domestication, and how we can influence the person we become. We discuss the idea of commitment and love, and how you can better love others unconditionally. We talk about the difference between guilt and remorse and how it relates to forgiveness. We also touch on the definition of love, and it’s wide array of applications. Lastly, he shares with me his insights on the creative process and what it takes to get a book written.

“Whenever I judge someone, I’m punishing them for an agreement they never made.”

This week on the School For Good Living Podcast:

  • Toltec traditions
  • Domestication
  • Living into your potential
  • What love is
  • Condition vs unconditional love
  • Difference between guilt and remorse
  • Commitment

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