190. Coaches Commonplace Book – #5

The Coaches Commonplace Book is a candid extention to the School for Good Living Podcast. My co-host and fellow member of the Marshall Goldsmith 100 Coaches group, Dean Miles, joins me to dive deeper into what it means to be a coach, find fulfillment, and ultimately to live good lives. This series includes several fun thinking activities where we explore quotations and news articles. 

Join me this week as Dean and I discuss our recent information diet and what it takes to be a coach. In this discussion, we talk a lot about where we find out motivation, our purpose, and ultimately how we seek for good living.

“On the other side of any emotion felt fully is peace.” – John Wineland

This week on the School for Good Living Podcast:

  • Brilliant and Dean’s information diet
  • Training versus fight training; what it takes to really be great
  • Masculine and feminine energy
  • The wisdom of the pages
    • Dean’s article: Six Signs You’re Lying to Yourself: How to Recognize When Your Confidence is Covering up Your Self-Deception – Dr. Evan Parks
    • Building a Personal Brand – Success Magazine
  • Finding and following your purpose

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189. Sam Carpenter – Work the System: The Simple Mechanics of Making More and Working Less

Sam Carpenter is the author of Work the System: The Simple Mechanics of Making More and Working Less. Sam is an author, an entrepreneur, and has extensive experience in a variety of fields, including engineering, journalism, publishing, surveying, forestry, construction management, telecommunications, and a myriad of other blue- and white-collar enterprises and jobs. Sam has owned and operated Centratel, the leading telephone answering service in the United States, for nearly 40 years.

In this Interview on the School for Good Living Podcast, Sam joins me to discuss how we can find good living through the good results of managing our systems. We all deal with systems and processes and Sam is someone who helps us learn to deal with recurring systems and processes to make our lives easier, free ourselves up, reduce our stress levels, earn more money, and have more free time.

“Unhappy people’s lives are out of control because they spend their days coping with the random bad results of their unmanaged systems.”

This week on the School for Good Living Podcast:

  • Which way should the toilet paper roll face?
  • How we can avoid ‘fire fighting’ against our tasks and challenges
  • Finding the organic processes in a business and making them mechanical
  • The documents required to guide a business’s goals and principles
  • Sam’s systems for writing books that make a difference

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188. AJ Jacobs – The Puzzler: One Man’s Quest to Solve the Most Baffling Puzzles Ever, from Crosswords to Jigsaws to the Meaning of Life

My guest today, AJ Jacobs, is a man who’s in the puzzle business. He can help you solve puzzles. He can help you live a more meaningful, happier, healthier life by cultivating something he calls the puzzle mindset. His most recent book is called The Puzzler: One Man’s Quest to Solve the Most Baffling Puzzles Ever, from crosswords to jigsaw puzzles to the meaning of life. AJ sees his life as a series of experiments in which he immerses himself in a project or lifestyle, for better or for worse. And then he writes about what he’s learned. The puzzler helps us to live with more curiosity, and more flexibility.

In this interview, AJ joins me to talk about how we can become more curious and less furious. We talk a lot about riddles, questions, puzzles, and new ways of looking at things in our lives that can help us not be so frustrated by them. We also talk about his work before The Puzzler. When he was a guest on this show back in 2019, he had written a book called Thanks A Thousand, in which he wanted to thank, and he embarked on a quest to thank every person who had a hand in making his morning cup of coffee, from the barista to the roaster to the truck driver to the warehouse operators to the grower.

“Curiosity is the only thing that can save the human species.”

Bonus Riddle From the Interview:

What is greater than God, but worse than the devil? Poor men have it, and rich men need it. Dead men eat it, but if you eat it, you will die.

Watch the full interview to find the answer!

This week on the School for Good Living Podcast:

  • How puzzles can help us to live better lives
  • Keeping an open mind and remaining curious
  • The benefits of pattern finding and the dangers of apophenia
  • How puzzle games can help us overcome some of the damage in society

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187. Ralph De La Rosa – Don’t Tell Me to Relax: Emotional Resilience in the Age of Rage, Feels, and Freak-Outs

Ralph De La Rosa teaches about two things, the suffering that comes from emotional confusion and the freedom that comes from emotional intelligence. Ralph began practicing meditation in 1996 and has taught meditation since 2008. He was a student of Amma’s, the hugging saint, for 16 years. He began studying Buddhism in 2005. Ralph’s work has been featured in the New York Post, CNN, Tricycle, GQ, Women’s Health, and many other publications and podcasts. Ralph is a PTSD, depression, and opioid addiction survivor, and their work is inspired by the tremendous transformation he’s experienced through meditation, yoga, and therapy.

In this interview, Ralph joins me to discuss how we can live a better life, understand ourselves, and make the contribution we would make if only we could get out of our own ways. We also talk a good bit about Ralph’s books. The first is Monkey is the Messenger: Meditation and What Your Busy Mind is Trying to Tell You. Ralph offers an insightful perspective here that the mind, the monkey, is both an agitator and an ally. It’s not something to wish it would go away or shut up, it actually has some incredible messages for us of growth and healing. Ralph’s second book is called Don’t Tell Me to Relax: Emotional Resilience in the Age of Rage, Feels, and Freak-Outs, a book that’s very timely, even still as it was published a couple of years ago.

“Life is like an exploding train wreck of beautiful possibilities.”

This week on the School for Good Living Podcast:

  • Music and the role it has played in Ralphs’ journey
  • Neurodivergence and how it has helped Ralph understand himself
  • How our suffering can teach us compassion
  • Ralph’s new learning interest called “attachment styles”
  • Ralph’s writing journey

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186. Coaches Commonplace Book – #4

Dean Miles is a fellow member of the Marshall Goldsmith 100 coaches group. Dean joins me in this special series where we dive into some of our philosophies about coaching and good living.

Join us in this episode of the Coaches Commonplace Book where we dive into the information that we have been consuming recently, what things we have been learning from that information, emotional fitness, emotional resiliency, and a bit about making money and influencing others as a coach.

“There’s what you achieve and then there’s being happy. Don’t blend those two together.”

This week on the School for Good Living Podcast:

  • An update on Dean and Brilliant’s information Diet
  • Spending time and learning from Marshall Goldsmith
  • Wisdom of the Pages
    • Brilliants magazine article “Damn Good Advice for Fathers”
    • Dean’s magazine article “Six Ways to Spend a Mental Health Day”
  • How to be a coach

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185. Tamar Haspel – To Boldly Grow: Finding Joy, Adventure, and Dinner in Your Own Backyard

Tamar Haspel coined the term first-hand food. Food that you grow, you cultivate, you forage for, you fish for, or you hunt for so that you get yourself. Tamar writes the James Beard Award-winning Washington Post column “Unearthed,” which covers the intersection of food and science, exploring how what we eat affects us and our planet. She’s also written for Discovery, Slate, Fortune Eater, Edible, Cape Cod, and other magazines and publications.

For this week’s interview on the School for Good Living Podcast, Tamar joins me to talk about her book “To Boldly Grow: Finding Joy, Adventure, and Dinner in Your Own Backyard.” Join us as we discuss the structure of gardening, chickens, fishing, foraging, turkeys hunting, and many others, including the ethics of eating animals. We get into first-hand food, what it is, why it matters, and why it could matter to you. Relationships are another recurring theme in this interview and I think Tamar’s take on what it takes to create and sustain a lasting and fulfilling relationship is pretty cool, and I hope you like it too.

“You do your best and hope for the best, that’s all you can do.”

This week on the School for Good Living Podcast:

  • What is firsthand food and how it differs from our typical diets
  • What is non-overlapping magisterial and how accepting it can benefit relationships
  • How to determine what plants are edible
  • The ethics of raising, hunting, and eating animals
  • Tips for staying open-minded

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184. Leah Weiss – How We Work: Live Your Purpose, Reclaim Your Sanity, and Embrace the Daily Grind

Leah Weiss, Ph.D. is an author and a speaker who helps leaders be better humans. Leah has taught and spoken in more than 100 organizations worldwide, including Goldman Sachs, Nasser, the European Commission, Google Intuit and more. Her work has been covered by outlets including the New York Times, BBC TEDx, The Financial Times, A Harvard Business Review, and on and on. Leah co-founded Skylyte, a company that specializes in using the latest neuroscience and behavior change to empower high-performing leaders and managers to prevent burnout for themselves and their teams.

In this interview, Leah joins me to explore a lot of things that can help you not only be a better leader, but also a better human. We talk a lot about her first book “How We Work: Live Your Purpose, Reclaim Your Sanity, and Embrace the Daily Grind.” that was also endorsed by the Dalai Lama. One interesting thing we talk about is purpose, not just as a concept, but how we can incorporate it into our day to day lives. We talk about mindfulness, compassion, and balance. Leah has a particularly interesting perspective of balance that I think you might find useful. If you work in a professional environment, or if you’ve experienced Sunday dread, overwhelm, burnout, mom guilt, inertia, or a struggle for balance, then this interview is for you.

“Maybe there are external changes to make, but the first step is to do the internal work.”

This week on the School for Good Living Podcast:

  • Becoming a better leader and a better human
  • What truly matters to us and how we can incorporate it into our lives
  • Finding balance in our increasingly busy lives
  • Staying motivated and productive
  • Marketing and promoting books

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183. Gary Ferguson – The Eight Master Lessons of Nature: What Nature Teaches Us About Living Well in the World

My guest today is Gary Ferguson. Gary has written 27 books on Science and Nature, including a book called “The Eight Master Lessons of Nature: What Nature Teaches us About Living Well in the World.” Gary’s most recent book is called “Full Ecology: Repairing Our Relationship with the Natural World.” Garry has created an organization called Full Ecology with a cultural psychologist named Mary Clare, who is not only has co-founder and partner, but also his wife. Gary describes full ecology as an idea and an organization dedicated to breaking down the walls between the human psyche and the natural world. Together, he and Mary Clare offer workshops, retreats, keynotes and continuing professional development to help individuals, families and or organizations traverse life’s changes with integrity and vision.

In this interview, we discuss how to renew your relationship with nature and how to deepen it. We also talk about things like the many, many hundreds and thousands of miles that Gary has spent in Yellowstone National Park. We discuss what he has learned in that including beauty, community, relationships, grief, and mystery.

“It is no wonder that we are starving to rediscover a connection with the natural world.”

This week on the School for Good Living Podcast:

  • What is the objective case and what does it teach us about the world?
  • What Gary has learned in his thousands of miles walked in Yellowstone National Park.
  • What Gary has learned about grief and how it helps him to empathize with others.
  • How things in nature, including humans, react to the forces of trauma.
  • How we can make space for grief in our lives and what that can do for us.
  • What is full ecology and what does it teach us about what’s inside us and between one another.

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182. Coaches Commonplace Book – Episode #3

182. Coaches Commonplace Book – Episode #3

Dean Miles is a fellow member of the Marshall Goldsmith 100 coaches group. Dean joins me in this special series where we dive into some of our philosophies about coaching and good living.

Join us in this episode of the Coaches Commonplace Book where we dive into the information that we have been consuming recently, what things we have been learning from that information, emotional fitness, emotional resiliency, and a bit about making money and influencing others as a coach.

“As things grow, they become more complex, but they don’t need to become more complicated.”

This week on the School for Good Living Podcast:

  • How humans are “infovores”
  • What are Brilliant and Dean currently reading?
  • The information diet of a coach
  • What Brilliant and Dean would include if they wrote the Men’s Health article “Are You Mentally Fit? 31 Ways to Power up Your Brain”
    • Da Vinci’s work and philosophies
    • Brilliant’s habits for mental fitness
    • Dean’s habits for mental fitness
  • Embrace failure in your life without letting yourself fall too far
  • Becoming space holders for other people and for things we care about

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181. Steven Kotler – The Devil’s Dictionary

Steven Kotler is a New York Times bestselling author and an award-winning journalist. He is the Executive Director of the Flow Research Collective, as well as the co-host of a podcast by the same name. He is one of the world’s leading experts on human performance and has appeared in over 100 publications. In addition, he has been nominated for two Pulitzer Prizes. In his latest book, The Devil’s Dictionary, he writes about what the world could look like in 15 years if we manage to solve some of the biggest problems we face as a species and what adjustments we would see in society.

In this interview on the School for Good Living Podcast, Steven shares about his latest book, The Devil’s Dictionary. It’s a near-future thriller about the evolution of empathy in the tradition of William Gibson and Neal Stephenson. In this interview, we talk about empathy and why it’s critical for us as humans to cultivate at this time to expand our sphere of caring and how we can do so. Steven shares personally from his life about his loving-kindness practice, the skepticism he had coming into that, and the benefits he’s found from doing it. We also talk about a conservation technique called mega linkages, how we can connect more nature for very specific reasons.

“If we’re going to solve the environmental challenges that we’re up against, we are going to have to start caring for forests and oceans the way that we care about friends and family.”

This week on the School for Good Living Podcast:

  • What is happening with the world and what hope to have for the future
  • How “empathy for all” could be the key to solving the big environmental challenges we face
  • What are mega linkages and how they could help us save the natural environment around us
  • What is loving-kindness meditation and how it can bless our lives
  • How we can cultivate empathy and its role in us performing at our peak
  • What difficulties writers face when writing both fiction and non-fiction books

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