Steve Pavlina: Personal Development for Smart People

Steve Pavlina is an entrepreneur, motivational speaker, and the author of Personal Development for Smart People: The Conscious Pursuit of Personal Growth. After an arrest on charges of grand theft auto in 1991, Steve made a conscious decision to turn his life around. He founded Dexterity Software, a computer game development company that focused on nonviolent puzzle games. He has served as Vice President and later President, of the Association of Software Professionals. Seeing himself as an explorer and perpetual student, Steve closed his software company and started a personal development blog and website to create more meaningful ripples in the world. Steve has blogged over 2 million words of content and released the copyright encouraging people to take his work and merge it with their own. As a result he is co-author of at least 200 books.

Steve joins me today to talk about how he gets his ideas for his blog posts. We talk about his many personal experiments and passions including polyphasic sleep, vegetarianism, veganism, even 30 consecutive days at Disneyland, and a 40-day water fast. We also talk about a conscious growth club he runs and a time when he realized he could work fewer hours and get better results. A free thinker testing the conventional paths, he says the smarter we are, the faster we grow.

I decided what I really wanted to do was create a bigger growth-oriented community. And the goal is we all come together and we encourage the heck out of each other. We all help each other grow. We work together as a team. We actually get to know each other and we care about each other. We cooperate.”  – Steve Pavlina

This week on The School for Good Living Podcast:

  • Twelve years in Catholic school where all the answers were given to you
  • A seminar with speaker Wayne Dyer changes Steve’s life
  • A dream for his twenties ran its course but it wasn’t meaningful enough
  • 2 million words on Steve’s blog and it’s all in the public domain
  • Writing for specific people
  • A long history of being connected with customers and readers of his blog
  • Steve’s process of asking the universe for writing inspiration, where it feels like a meditation
  • The accidental vegetarian (then vegan) – a 30-day experiment that just kept going
  • 30-day trial: Spending 30 consecutive days at Disneyland…voluntarily. What would it do to a person?
  • Steve created a group called Conscious Growth Club in 2017 and has now over 150 members
  • Find out how to connect to people – your tribe – of like-minded people aligned and interested in personal growth
  • What Steve finds many people struggle with is consistency and what that means
  • Finding that purpose you want to invest in for 20 years or more
  • 40-day trial: Water fasting
  • The toughest part of fasting is longer for women than men
  • Steve records every day of his fasting experience on his YouTube channel along  with a  personal growth lesson
  • The risks in fasting for long periods of time – it’s not what you might imagine
  • Experiments that are not worth doing
  • The benefits of group challenges
  • What there may be not-to-like about the personal growth field
  • Steven’s travel tips and why
  • The exercise that Americans don’t get enough of
  • What are you willing to say ‘Yes’ to?
  • Can you be wealthy without money? Holding wealth in the form of social goodwill
  • Steve’s favorite TV show and what it’s taught him
  • Social goals vs. Individual goals
  • The benefits of not holding grudges
  • The downfalls to focusing on individual success vs. investing in social bonds
  • Blocks to our more heart-centered paths
  • How being broke is an invitation to thinking about life differently

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Special Release – Covidcast 4 – Energy

In this episode of our special podcast series, Bryan focuses on Life’s Best Practices – Energy, and how to gain the motivation to live a healthy and rewarding life.

As part of the episode, Bryan talks about how his father’s death gave him a new perspective on what a fulfilling life should look like, and he also shares his hope after hearing of a new Covid-19 test that purports to just take five minutes for a result. You can reach out to Bryan and let him know what brings you hope, by emailing him at [email protected]

Resources Mentioned:
Life’s Best Practices
5-minute Covid Test

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Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of the School for Good Living Podcast, with your host, Bryan Miller. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave us a rating and review.

Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook, and follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and LinkedIn. And be sure to share your favorite episodes with your friends and colleagues on social media to inspire others to improve their lives and reach their full potential.

Special Release – Covidcast 2 – Love

In this episode of our special podcast series, Bryan focuses on Life’s Best Practices – Love, and a better understanding of what it is and how we can apply these days where many of us are learning greater insights into our relationships.

As part of the episode, Bryan shares the hope he received while waiting in line and his Apple watch notified him to sobering news. If you find yourself lacking in love or hope during the Covid-19 pandemic (or any time for that matter), this is the podcast for you. Please reach out to Bryan and let him know what brings you hope. [email protected]

Resources Mentioned:
Life’s Best Practices
How the Pandemic Will End by Ed Yong
Dyson Covent Ventilator

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The Power of Personal Accountability with Sophie Chiche

Sophie Chiche is a French-American speaker, entrepreneur, and the author of The Power of Personal Accountability: Achieve What Matters To You. She co-wrote this book with Mark Samuel to bring attention to what really matters to you. She is a two-time TedTalk presenter with degrees in Business, Journalism and a Masters in Applied Psychology from the University of Santa Monica. She is working on a new book to be released later this year.

In this interview Sophie talks about how she used to weigh more than 350 lbs and made the significant change to lose and keep off more than half that weight. We talk about the mindset and behavior that allowed her to achieve such a massive transformation which also led Sophie to founding Shape House, an urban sweat lodge with eight locations now between California and New York. She tells us what it’s like for her celebrity clientele to be inside an infrared sauna.

Sophie speaks to loving ourselves and the power of integrity to transform our lives, taking charge of our lives right now, and knowing that life is not a rehearsal. We explore the idea that pretty much every one of us has at least one area of our lives in which we want to make a similarly significant change.

“You can eat everything you want, but before we do that, can we feel our feelings?” and I was startled basically and said, ‘Okay, all right, I’ll try.’ And then I backed off from the refrigerator.”   – Sophie Chiche

This week on The School for Good Living Podcast:

  • The two different lives between weighing 350lb and weighing less than half that amount
  • What a therapist said to change the course of Sophie’s life and shifted the relationship she had with herself
  • To look at the process of change as physical, emotional, mental and to some degree spiritual and how they all have to mature to the same level
  • Being raised in an environment that treated feelings as the plague, to be avoided at all costs
  • How Disney’s Mulan character Mushu is a lot like feelings – we imagine them to be bigger or scarier than they actually are
  • The education system is one way to learn and some kids it fits really well, while for others it really doesn’t
  • Sophie became a coach because she was more interested in where people are now
  • Whatever is in your past, whatever’s not resolved, it’s all here in the present
  • The brain (and the heart) is a muscle that requires to feel as an exercise, and avoid atrophy
  • The toxicity of not letting your feelings be expressed
  • Putting on a suit of armor will in the end limit your ability to grow
  • Question your beliefs. Are they really yours or could they easily be someone else’s? Do they serve you?
  • Sophie’s Netflix recommendations – ‘Fleabag” & ‘Killing Eve’
  • Some people develop their mental capabilities but neglect their emotional capability
  • The parallels between addiction and being healthy
  • Self-medicating to not feel the feelings we are meant to feel
  • The industry of sugar and how it’s an addictive substance
  • Going from not loving yourself to thinking you’re the most precious thing in the universe
  • The first step to self-love starts with integrity
  • How not making commitments under the gun can avoid living a life that’s not the life you want
  • We are in charge of our lives right now – we are the directors, the actors, and the production management as it’s happening
  • Judgement is the poison that you take hoping that it kills the other guy
  • If you treat your friends the way you treat yourself, would you have friends?
  • The question Sophie often asks herself is, “What’s the highest choice right now?”
  • The best mirror is often a good friend
  • The meeting and impact of Lewis Mehl Madrona
  • Sophie’s first sweat lodge experience
  • Confronting cultural appropriation
  • The Shape House experience: Infrared bedding, Netflix, a relax room with tea and Vitamin C and burning a thousand calories
  • How we abuse our bodies and what can be done to reset it and allow it to heal
  • Your at-home Shape House sweat experience – hot bath, lemons, ginger
  • The benefits of alkaline water
  • The feminine spirit of money and Sophie’s practice with a chess pawn
  • Writing Tips – Write like you speak
  • Write shorter sentences. One idea per sentence and only one sentence per idea.
  • Sophie’s biggest advice in life: find out what you’re really good at and then be okay to ask for help for that things that you’re not.
  • Working on your inner critic
  • When Sophie was ready for an agent
  • The best money Sophie has spent was on a retreat and having a coach
  • Have a date with your spiritual self

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Solo Episode #5: Exploring Authenticity

This week in my 5th solo podcast episode, I’m going to explore five questions on the topic of authenticity. In my coaching practice I find this topic to be one that everyone wrestles with.

What does it mean to be authentic? What does it mean to feel comfortable in your own skin and how can we do it? One of the questions that I like to ask people that I work with when I coach is who’s the most authentic person you know and what about them makes you think they’re authentic?

What you need to know is you don’t need anyone to give you permission to be yourself. When you make that choice, it begins a virtuous cycle. As you more fully express your innermost self, you tap into your core genius, access more of your power, and increase the likelihood you will make the contribution that only you can make.

I want to thank my friend and client, Juliana, who’s in my Life’s Best Practices Breakthrough Coaching program, for asking these five questions.

SHOW NOTES
00:02:48 – Disempowering & empowering beliefs
00:13:01 – Bronnie Ware
00:22:10 – My tool to discovering what I really want.

LINKS –
**The School for Good Living may receive commissions for purchases made through Amazon links in this post.

The School for Good Living
Bryanmiller.com
Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing






Solo Episode #4: Daily Driver

So as I prepared for this solo cast I thought, what could I share that might be of value to you? I want to do two things: 1) I want to share with you a story about my six year old daughter, and 2) I want to invite you to really think about your own routine. Is your routine supporting you?

As a coach I have seen (I’ve seen in my own life as well), that all human behavior is a series of patterns. Maybe today is an opportunity to really look at that and consciously map out what your ideal day would look like. If there was a single day that you could live, day in and day out, what kind of day would it be?

I often think about how remarkable it is that you can change your entire life with a single decision.

SHOW NOTES
00:01:49 – Right hand vs. Left hand
00:05:44 – Life as a race track
00:17:57 – My routine

LINKS –

The School for Good Living
Bryanmiller.com






Solo Episode #3: Paths & Pivots

Today I want to share with you, in case it’s useful to you, a bit about my journey to creating the Life’s Best Practices Breakthrough Coaching Program. I suspect that you also have something you want to create or something you’re in the middle of creating and you might be wondering, is it worth it?

You have a gift, something that you want to share. We all have gifts and talents, but how can you share that with others in a way that’s ultimately fulfilling? At one point in my life I wanted to write and see produced my own screenplay. I travelled far down that path and in this episode I share that my desire to improve people’s lives, inspire them, and have fun in the process, was found through coaching – my entrepreneurial pivot.

Enjoy this episode and if you have topics that you think might be useful to explore on this show, I invite you to email me at [email protected]

SHOW NOTES
00:01:00 – If you’re an entrepreneur
00:01:51 – I committed my life…to a screenplay
00:04:29 – Life’s Best Practices
00:05:28 – Your library card
00:11:15 – I love when others grow

LINKS –

The School for Good Living
Bryanmiller.com






Solo Episode #2: Becoming Brilliant

Welcome to the School for Good Living podcast. This is the 2nd solo episode this month and it’s just you, me, and my producer Dallan.

Today I open up about my own struggles with identity and how a sweat lodge experience in New Mexico helped me clarify the constant questions – Who am I? What do I want? Why am I here? Challenging questions that we carry most of our lives but rarely get the opportunity to dedicate our awareness to.

There is this idea that any one of us is so much more than anything we could possibly use to describe ourselves, including our name. I love this saying, that we are more like rivers than statues. Because no matter what, life is in this constant dynamic flow and I want to share with you one small story on how I didn’t become Bryan Banana.

Enjoy this episode and if you have topics that you think might be useful to explore on this show, I invite you to email me at [email protected]

SHOW NOTES
00:01:27 – What a man can be
00:02:56 – Blessed or cursed
00:07:31 – The challenge is not finding the answers
00:010:03 – Bryan Banana
00:13:46 – What is it you ultimately want to be?

LINKS –

The School for Good Living
Bryanmiller.com






Solo Episode #1: Exploring Good Living

Hello my friends, it’s Bryan here. This month I’ve chosen to focus on our relationship and explore what it means to be a listener. Sitting in a sound booth, I have no idea where this podcast goes, who receives it, or what impact it might have. I might not know you, I might’ve met you before, or you might be my best friend. I want to build this relationship a little further by sharing with you a little bit about me and about the School for Good Living – what it is, why it exists, and what it could do for you.

If you have topics that you think might be useful to explore on this show, I invite you to email me at [email protected]

SHOW NOTES
00:03:42 – Figure out and find your voice
00:06:25 – I enjoy serving people
00:08:11 – Larry H. Miller Group
00:11:16 – Help make a world work for everyone
00:14:38 – A coach for everyone, everyone a coach

LINKS –
Marshall Goldsmith
Larry H. Miller Group
The School for Good Living





Carl Honoré: In Praise of Slowness

Hello my friends today, my guest is Carl Honore, author of a book called In Praise of Slowness: Challenging the Cult of Speed.

Carl’s book came to me at the perfect time in my life. He was interested to explore and answer two questions. Number one – how did we get so fast, and two – is it possible or even desirable to slow down? Carl is an award winning writer, broadcaster, and TEDTalk speaker. He’s considered the voice of the global slow movement and talks about how to thrive in a fast world by slowing down. His TED talk on this same subject has been viewed more than 3 million times.

In his TED talk, he talks about bad slow versus good slow. The idea of time sickness and time exits, how we can get more out of time, slow time down. He talks about our tendency to race through life instead of truly living it.He spent a decade working as a journalist before really diving in to this slow movement thing.

He points out that we used to dial, now we speed dial. We used to read, now we speed read. We used to walk, now we speed walk, and we used to date, and now we speed date. He has explored what some people call the international slow movement, and he makes the point that when we slow down (at the right moments) that ultimately we’re able to do everything better. I hope you enjoy and benefit from this interview with Carl Honore. Thanks so much for listening.

SUMMARY
00:03:58 – What’s life about?
00:13:58 – Time Sickness
00:36:38 – Eigenzeit & Tempo giusto
00:41:41 – The Lightning Round
00:51:00 – Writing lesson

LINKS – (In order of appearance)
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In Praise of Slowness: Changing the Cult of Speed
TedTalk: Carl Honoré – In Praise of Slowness
CarlHonore.com